While hanging out in turtle mode, I realized that perpetration has actually been in power for a long time.
In session, my clients say the most amazing things. Things that help others hear their hearts and foster closeness.
EMERGE: I’ve been quiet lately.
I’ve needed to be.
The last several weeks have been really hard. And alongside my fellow survivors and allies I’ve felt disheartened, rage, betrayal, concern, triggered, etc.
So, I went inward into my more pensive self. I gave difficult feelings the presence they needed in an effort to process them. I cried, slept, did nothing at times and overall took extra space for self-care. All in turtle mode.
We repeat what we do not heal.
Trauma is like a legacy.
I’m originally from Austin, Texas (yes, I know, I’m a unicorn) but I left for several years for grad school and stayed gone for a bit longer for love.
There’s a lot of talk about being trauma informed. And trainings. I’ve taken a lot of them.
By all means, a structured way to learn about common ways people feel safe or unsafe related to specific experiences is important.
However, I would caution anyone from getting prescriptive with this kind of information. It’s not simply a laundry list of what to do or not to do – it’s truly a way of being.
This past year, I participated in an intensive training called DEEP. DEEP is a fusion of attachment theory, somatic approaches, trauma therapy and depth psychology in an experiential therapeutic approach . And, so much is still sinking in for me.
One of the things I’ve had to rethink in this experience is the idea of having “no boundaries.” We say this a lot – about ourselves, other people, you name it.
We say this word all the time.
And we often assume a positive meaning.
However, in my recent trip to Rome, I was reminded that this word is mainly a qualifier of something else. It implies magnitude, not inherently positivity.
This past weekend, I got to hang out with several friend-colleagues that I absolutely adore and respect among the trees and mountains in Washington.
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