REAL TALK

There’s No Such Thing as TMI in Therapy

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again - there’s no such thing as tmi in therapy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I wanna know all about your poop problems. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sexy mishaps. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The thoughts that pop in and scare you and feel unmentionable. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That embarrassing thing...

Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2018

It's almost the end of April - Sexual Assault Awareness Month. And instead of giving facts and figures, I want to speak directly to every person out there who is working hard to overcome this - whether you call it sexual assault, rape, molestation, going too far,...

Power Need Not Explain Itself

Last weekend I was in the Somatic Experiencing Training and as part of the experience, we practice on each other and have 1-on-1 sessions with SE Practitioners.

How to be More of Yourself

In my last blog post, I shared a little back story on how I came to view confidence through this lens of being and experiencing rather than as a thing to have. This post is all about tangible strategies you can practice to lean into and become more of yourself. While...

Perhaps It’s Not Running

“You can’t run from your problems.” and it’s true – you can’t. But you can give yourself a break. And sometimes that’s the wisest thing.

Unequivocally Herself

I have a few thoughts on confidence.... When I was about 23, my boss came out of a meeting and, with a laugh, said, “Sofia* is unequivocally herself!” At the time, this simple statement stirred up so much in me. I had never heard anyone referred to in this way in my...

Self Care for Shadow Selves

Self care looks different at different times, of course, and one act of self care that feels particularly important is to get to know our shadow selves.

Bearing Witness to #MeToo

I’ve been a bit stalled on the writing front for the past few months...and I find it kind of fascinating. For a while I felt bad about not writing. But the more I sat with wondering where my writing mojo went, the more I learned about where some of my writing mojo...

7 Tips on How to Be There for People in Crisis

Like so many, my thoughts are with those affected by Hurricane Harvey. As the catastrophe continues to unfold people are wondering how to help. Offering your home, blood, money, time, effort and positive thoughts are all invaluable. Many are also wondering how to be...

Power Over Versus Power With

As a trauma therapist so much of my work is centered around power. Expanding the idea of power and cultivating personal power. Power Over: The Dominant View of Power Too often, when we think of power, we think of it in terms of power over. Power over resources. Power...

Stress + The 3 Sisters of Your Brain

For better or for worse, when we get stressed out so many of the activities we associate with being human are out of reach. We can’t seem think straight. Or connect the dots between ideas. Focus? SQUIRREL! The inner taskmaster? She’s clocked out for the day. What’s...

Boundaries as Structures for Freedom

Helping clients tune into, create, strengthen and maintain boundaries is a big part of my work. However, we may actually need to reframe the word “boundaries” to be effective at creating them. According to Merriam-Webster, a boundary is “something that indicates or...

Selling Self-Worth

A couple weeks ago, I was having a bún bowl with my pal, Lauren of Hope and Humor Therapy. Between noodle slurps, we got to talking about how many businesses tell you to buy their product as an “investment” in yourself. They might say, “you’re worth it” or “put...

Sorting Your Needs Through Ice Cream Goggles

Sometimes life’s a shithead. Handing us one thing after another. Not letting us catch a break. It becomes hard to keep up with basic things — like laundry. If we were to run a contest to determine the best ways to measure stress, laundry piles would surely be in the...

Resilience through Baby Moments of Connection

From Malta, my partner and I headed to Friuli, the region my partner is from, to visit family and attend a wedding. We had to take two planes to get to the Venice airport. Then it’s about an hour’s drive to his parent’s house. My partner’s brother, sister-in-law,...