Feeling With

Feeling With

Culture tells us that emotions make us weak, soft or broken if in abundance. This narrative will have us believe that there is something wrong with us when feeling emotional and it can lead us to disconnect from ourselves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I used to really believe this and...
Reality Check Regarding Power

Reality Check Regarding Power

While hanging out in turtle mode, I realized that perpetration has actually been in power for a long time.   At the time, I felt pretty defeated by this idea. It made me feel sad and a bit hopeless.   However, I sat with it and digested this idea and now I feel...
Emerge

Emerge

I’ve been quiet lately. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve needed to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The last several weeks have been really hard. And alongside my fellow survivors and allies I’ve felt disheartened, rage, betrayal, concern, triggered, etc. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, I went inward...
Legacy of Trauma: It Didn’t Start With You

Legacy of Trauma: It Didn’t Start With You

We repeat what we do not heal. Trauma is like a legacy. Any trauma that happens now is a reflection of another hurt that happened before. Many times even generations before. When we grow up amid trauma and oppression, we do our best to cope. And sometimes that coping...
Who Planted All the Cacti?!

Who Planted All the Cacti?!

I’m originally from Austin, Texas (yes, I know, I’m a unicorn) but I left for several years for grad school and stayed gone for a bit longer for love. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we returned to Austin two years ago, my first reaction was, “who planted all the...
Trauma Informed as a Way of Being

Trauma Informed as a Way of Being

There’s a lot of talk about being trauma informed. And trainings. I’ve taken a lot of them.   By all means, a structured way to learn about common ways people feel safe or unsafe related to specific experiences is important.   However, I would caution...
Rethinking “No Boundaries”

Rethinking “No Boundaries”

The more I go along in this work, the more I learn that fundamentally changes the way I view so many things. This past year, I participated in an intensive training called DEEP. DEEP is a fusion of attachment theory, somatic approaches, trauma therapy and depth...
Great How?

Great How?

We say this word all the time. Great. And we often assume a positive meaning. However, in my recent trip to Rome, I was reminded that this word is mainly a qualifier of something else. It implies magnitude, not inherently positivity. On this recent trip we took a tour...
To the Mothers Within Us

To the Mothers Within Us

Mother’s Day is not just for mothers of humans. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s for all of us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Our cultural relationship to motherhood is complex. In so many ways we put mothers on pedestals. This can feel good and empowering. It truly is amazing what our bodies...
Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2018

Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2018

It’s almost the end of April – Sexual Assault Awareness Month. And instead of giving facts and figures, I want to speak directly to every person out there who is working hard to overcome this – whether you call it sexual assault, rape, molestation,...