Legacy of Trauma: It Didn’t Start With You

Legacy of Trauma: It Didn’t Start With You

We repeat what we do not heal. Trauma is like a legacy. Any trauma that happens now is a reflection of another hurt that happened before. Many times even generations before. When we grow up amid trauma and oppression, we do our best to cope. And sometimes that coping...
Trauma Informed as a Way of Being

Trauma Informed as a Way of Being

There’s a lot of talk about being trauma informed. And trainings. I’ve taken a lot of them.   By all means, a structured way to learn about common ways people feel safe or unsafe related to specific experiences is important.   However, I would caution...
Rethinking “No Boundaries”

Rethinking “No Boundaries”

The more I go along in this work, the more I learn that fundamentally changes the way I view so many things. This past year, I participated in an intensive training called DEEP. DEEP is a fusion of attachment theory, somatic approaches, trauma therapy and depth...
Great How?

Great How?

We say this word all the time. Great. And we often assume a positive meaning. However, in my recent trip to Rome, I was reminded that this word is mainly a qualifier of something else. It implies magnitude, not inherently positivity. On this recent trip we took a tour...
Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2018

Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2018

It’s almost the end of April – Sexual Assault Awareness Month. And instead of giving facts and figures, I want to speak directly to every person out there who is working hard to overcome this – whether you call it sexual assault, rape, molestation,...
Bearing Witness to #MeToo

Bearing Witness to #MeToo

I’ve been a bit stalled on the writing front for the past few months…and I find it kind of fascinating. For a while I felt bad about not writing. But the more I sat with wondering where my writing mojo went, the more I learned about where some of my writing mojo...
7 Tips on How to Be There for People in Crisis

7 Tips on How to Be There for People in Crisis

Like so many, my thoughts are with those affected by Hurricane Harvey. As the catastrophe continues to unfold people are wondering how to help. Offering your home, blood, money, time, effort and positive thoughts are all invaluable. Many are also wondering how to be...
Power Over Versus Power With

Power Over Versus Power With

As a trauma therapist so much of my work is centered around power. Expanding the idea of power and cultivating personal power. Power Over: The Dominant View of Power Too often, when we think of power, we think of it in terms of power over. Power over resources. Power...
Stress + The 3 Sisters of Your Brain

Stress + The 3 Sisters of Your Brain

For better or for worse, when we get stressed out so many of the activities we associate with being human are out of reach. We can’t seem think straight. Or connect the dots between ideas. Focus? SQUIRREL! The inner taskmaster? She’s clocked out for the day. What’s...
Resilience through Baby Moments of Connection

Resilience through Baby Moments of Connection

From Malta, my partner and I headed to Friuli, the region my partner is from, to visit family and attend a wedding. We had to take two planes to get to the Venice airport. Then it’s about an hour’s drive to his parent’s house. My partner’s brother, sister-in-law,...