Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2018

Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2018

It’s almost the end of April – Sexual Assault Awareness Month. And instead of giving facts and figures, I want to speak directly to every person out there who is working hard to overcome this – whether you call it sexual assault, rape, molestation,...
Bearing Witness to #MeToo

Bearing Witness to #MeToo

I’ve been a bit stalled on the writing front for the past few months…and I find it kind of fascinating. For a while I felt bad about not writing. But the more I sat with wondering where my writing mojo went, the more I learned about where some of my writing mojo...
7 Tips on How to Be There for People in Crisis

7 Tips on How to Be There for People in Crisis

Like so many, my thoughts are with those affected by Hurricane Harvey. As the catastrophe continues to unfold people are wondering how to help. Offering your home, blood, money, time, effort and positive thoughts are all invaluable. Many are also wondering how to be...
Power Over Versus Power With

Power Over Versus Power With

As a trauma therapist so much of my work is centered around power. Expanding the idea of power and cultivating personal power. Power Over: The Dominant View of Power Too often, when we think of power, we think of it in terms of power over. Power over resources. Power...
Stress + The 3 Sisters of Your Brain

Stress + The 3 Sisters of Your Brain

For better or for worse, when we get stressed out so many of the activities we associate with being human are out of reach. We can’t seem think straight. Or connect the dots between ideas. Focus? SQUIRREL! The inner taskmaster? She’s clocked out for the day. What’s...
Resilience through Baby Moments of Connection

Resilience through Baby Moments of Connection

From Malta, my partner and I headed to Friuli, the region my partner is from, to visit family and attend a wedding. We had to take two planes to get to the Venice airport. Then it’s about an hour’s drive to his parent’s house. My partner’s brother, sister-in-law,...
Cotton Candy Could be the Trigger

Cotton Candy Could be the Trigger

I’ve been working in the domestic and sexual violence field formally for about 6 years. However, my experience with such things spans a lot longer time span. As such, I can’t help but view trauma, triggers, and our work from my own unique lens as a survivor. Before I...
What I Tell Every Domestic Violence Survivor

What I Tell Every Domestic Violence Survivor

Disclaimer First, if you think you might be experiencing domestic violence, reach out to crisis services. You don’t have to be in an acute crisis to get information. Leaving can be very dangerous, thus it is best to create a safety plan before ever attempting to...
When Your Life’s Not Appropriate Water Cooler Talk

When Your Life’s Not Appropriate Water Cooler Talk

It’s the worst feeling. You’re at work or school and trying to make friends. Your colleagues are sharing about whatever silly thing happened at camp when they were kids. Or, perhaps it’s some heartwarming story about that time their mom saved the day...