Your Life, Your Choices

Your Life, Your Choices

I often hear clients talk about the not-so-subtle shoulds that loved ones sling their way. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “What does your therapist say?” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “You’re barking up the wrong tree.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ “You just need to get over it.”...
Healing is Within You

Healing is Within You

Each of us is designed to heal. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For example, if you get a little scratch on your arm, you will bleed, but then the blood will clot to create a scab. Your body will also send some inflammation to the scratch to puff up the skin and help close the wound....
Healing in Spirals

Healing in Spirals

By all means, I am not the first person to say this and I definitely won’t be the last.⁣ ⁣ Whether it’s a loss, a trauma, a difficult relationship or experience – healing occurs in spirals.⁣ ⁣ When we are acutely in a difficult life experience it can...
Honor Big Feels

Honor Big Feels

We often get stumped by big feelings.⁣ ⁣ Feelings that may have been deemed “inappropriate” or “off-limits” during our upbringing.⁣ ⁣ Feelings that our attachment figures didn’t know what to do with – therefore, we don’t know...
Feeling With

Feeling With

Culture tells us that emotions make us weak, soft or broken if in abundance. This narrative will have us believe that there is something wrong with us when feeling emotional and it can lead us to disconnect from ourselves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I used to really believe this and...
Emerge

Emerge

I’ve been quiet lately. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve needed to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The last several weeks have been really hard. And alongside my fellow survivors and allies I’ve felt disheartened, rage, betrayal, concern, triggered, etc. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, I went inward...
Who Planted All the Cacti?!

Who Planted All the Cacti?!

I’m originally from Austin, Texas (yes, I know, I’m a unicorn) but I left for several years for grad school and stayed gone for a bit longer for love. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we returned to Austin two years ago, my first reaction was, “who planted all the...
Trauma Informed as a Way of Being

Trauma Informed as a Way of Being

There’s a lot of talk about being trauma informed. And trainings. I’ve taken a lot of them.   By all means, a structured way to learn about common ways people feel safe or unsafe related to specific experiences is important.   However, I would caution...
Rethinking “No Boundaries”

Rethinking “No Boundaries”

The more I go along in this work, the more I learn that fundamentally changes the way I view so many things. This past year, I participated in an intensive training called DEEP. DEEP is a fusion of attachment theory, somatic approaches, trauma therapy and depth...
Creating A Life

Creating A Life

This past weekend, I got to hang out with several friend-colleagues that I absolutely adore and respect among the trees and mountains in Washington. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ We danced, had sing-a-longs, played games, got lost in the wilderness and overall co-created a space for us...