There’s No Such Thing as TMI in Therapy

There’s No Such Thing as TMI in Therapy

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – there’s no such thing as tmi in therapy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I wanna know all about your poop problems. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sexy mishaps. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The thoughts that pop in and scare you and feel unmentionable. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ That embarrassing...
Healing is Within You

Healing is Within You

Each of us is designed to heal. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For example, if you get a little scratch on your arm, you will bleed, but then the blood will clot to create a scab. Your body will also send some inflammation to the scratch to puff up the skin and help close the wound....
Healing in Spirals

Healing in Spirals

By all means, I am not the first person to say this and I definitely won’t be the last.⁣ ⁣ Whether it’s a loss, a trauma, a difficult relationship or experience – healing occurs in spirals.⁣ ⁣ When we are acutely in a difficult life experience it can...
Honor Big Feels

Honor Big Feels

We often get stumped by big feelings.⁣ ⁣ Feelings that may have been deemed “inappropriate” or “off-limits” during our upbringing.⁣ ⁣ Feelings that our attachment figures didn’t know what to do with – therefore, we don’t know...
Feeling With

Feeling With

Culture tells us that emotions make us weak, soft or broken if in abundance. This narrative will have us believe that there is something wrong with us when feeling emotional and it can lead us to disconnect from ourselves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I used to really believe this and...
Be Fabulous & Vote

Be Fabulous & Vote

Everyone is saying to vote right now and I think it’s hard to feel motivated to go vote when our political system is so complex and you might not know where to start. ⠀ True story – despite going to social work school and being super passionate about...
Reality Check Regarding Power

Reality Check Regarding Power

While hanging out in turtle mode, I realized that perpetration has actually been in power for a long time.   At the time, I felt pretty defeated by this idea. It made me feel sad and a bit hopeless.   However, I sat with it and digested this idea and now I feel...
Be Awkward

Be Awkward

In session, my clients say the most amazing things. Things that help others hear their hearts and foster closeness. ⁣ ⁣ I often ask, “Have you shared that with _______?” ⁣ ⁣ And many times, they say no. ⁣ ⁣ When I ask why not, awkwardness comes up a lot as...
Emerge

Emerge

I’ve been quiet lately. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve needed to be. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The last several weeks have been really hard. And alongside my fellow survivors and allies I’ve felt disheartened, rage, betrayal, concern, triggered, etc. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, I went inward...
Legacy of Trauma: It Didn’t Start With You

Legacy of Trauma: It Didn’t Start With You

We repeat what we do not heal. Trauma is like a legacy. Any trauma that happens now is a reflection of another hurt that happened before. Many times even generations before. When we grow up amid trauma and oppression, we do our best to cope. And sometimes that coping...